A GENTLE ANSWER TURNS AWAY WRATH, but a HARSH Word STIRS up ANGER! The TONGUE of the WISE adorns KNOWLEDGE, but the MOUTH of the FOOL gushes FOLLY (LUNACY)! The EYES of the FATHER ARE EVERYWHERE, KEEPING WATCH on the WICKED, AND THE GOOD! The SOOTHING TONGUE is a TREE of LIFE, but a PERVERSE TONGUE CRUSHES the SPIRIT! (Proverbs 15:1-4)
You know, it is indeed frustrating! Those who constantly intend on setting out to destroy someone else’s day, on purpose.
Whether by speaking, or according to what’s customary today, typing and chatting online, mentioning things that would hurt the feelings of others, seem to be trend of the times.
Okay, so what exactly is wrong with us??? Why do we find it so necessary to BULLY someone, especially those we don’t know personally, or have ever even met before? It’s like, even famous people have to deal with bullies, saying things that are truly harmful.
I find it so ridiculous! Do we not have enough to do in our own day-to-day, whether school, job, taking care of our homes, children, spouses, budding relationships, etc.? I mean, really!!!
WEBSTER’S Dictionary defines the expressive word “bully” this way:
-A blustering brow-beating person!
-One who is habitually cruel to others, especially those who appear weaker!
Remember the “Golden Rule?” Well, our daily walk should still include that quote: “Doing and Treating others the way we would like to be treated.” However, it seems the more spoiled individuals are given in the way of provisions, especially the materialistic or “privileged,” the more they obtain nefarious (or evil) ways toward those who haven’t done anything except follow the Rule for Life!
You know, when parents allow their children to do or say anything, without ever being chastised, they become spoiled, immature-behaving sorts. They just seem to get a kick out of watching or hearing how cruel, inhumane defamation affects those otherwise innocent people. Afterward, they’re sitting back, snickering at the disheartened person, and saying to themselves, “I can’t stand that guy; he thinks he knows everything,” or “She is so stupid! I know I look better than she does!”
“The WORDS of a GOSSIP are like CHOICE MORSELS; they GO DEEP DOWN into the INNERMOST Parts of the body! Like a COATING of silver dross (unwanted material) on an earthen vessel, are fervent lips with an EVIL heart! Enemies DISQUISE themselves with their LIPS, but IN their HEARTS they harbor DECEIT! Though their SPEECH is CHARMING, DO NOT BELIEVE THEM, for SEVEN ABOMINATIONS FILL their HEARTS!” (Proverbs 26:22-25)
Out of the all the physical ways of expression, a MALIGNING WORD SPOKEN, coming from the heart, can be one of the most harshest ways to offend someone. Many of us sometimes ponder, that we could care less about what other people say, or how they feel about us. Yet, truth be told, we’re not just mere robots landing from another planet. Instead, we’re all made up of flesh, blood and bones. So we privately retain a “why do THEY say those things about ME” way of thinking.
“They SHARPEN their TONGUES like SWORDS, and AIM CRUEL WORDS like DEADLY ARROWS!” (Psalm 64:3)
We tell ourselves that NOTHING, or NO ONE, is ever allowed to get under our skin, and WE should be able to say “anything to anyone else,” whenever WE feel like it! Nevertheless, whenever we do say whatever we feel, we are still held accountable for those words we use, AND those lives we push to detriment. Believe that!
Our tongue, as sensitive as it may appear, also carries a certain amount of strength and cockiness. As we are told in the book of Proverbs, the 18th chapter:
“The TONGUE has the POWER of Life and Death, and those who LOVE it will EAT its Fruit!”
There are some individuals who claim that whenever a person becomes extremely depressed, almost to the point of ending their lives, they are merely push-overs, or weaklings; insecure, not having enough confidence in themselves. So, because of that, those bullies crave that feeling, as though anything can be said in a derogatory way, regardless to whether the person did something, or spoke out of turn to them. And in turn, the out-spoken claim to feel good about themselves, misbehaving, taunting repeatedly the quiet-natured individuals, continue on.
That is not always true, for there are some, who throughout their years of living, desire to “turn out the lights,” too, because no one showed enough interest in them to listen to their stories, or allow them to vent. Either that, or close family members or friends would assume they’re just crying “wolf” for attention’s sake. Those same people actually have weaknesses, too, wanting to go off on someone else, in order to disregard their own feelings.
Come on now! I mean, really, we need to be mindful of what we say about others. Get and stick with at least one hobby, something that we like to do. Something we can handle, that can take up time from thinking of how insolent we can be to others, that would gnaw at the heartstrings of good people. It doesn’t hurt to think kindhearted. And when we hear or read something about someone else, before falsifying online, let’s consider how we would feel if it were us instead. No one has a reason to be jealous or boggled down with envy, for we all have something positive that we’re able to master well.
A SOUND Heart is the Life of the flesh: but ENVY the rottenness of the bones! (Proverbs 14:30)